If your spouse has recently been arrested for a DUI, you may be facing many emotions. Feelings of confusion, anger, hurt, sympathy and various others may be going through your mind. This can be a strenuous time for your relationship in addition to each of you as individuals. If this is your partner’s first offense, there is no need to panic! The penalties for a first time offense are not nearly as severe as those for a repeat offender. If your spouse has received multiple DUIs, things may be a bit more complicated. The most important thing to remember is to remain calm and find the best way to support your spouse.
Upon learning that your spouse has been charged with a DUI, you might need some time to process the information. However, once you have taken that time it is important to talk to your spouse. Though it is an unfortunate situation, there is nothing that you can do to change the past so it is time to focus on the present and future. Talking to your partner about how and why the DUI occurred is a good place to start. This way, you can start working on a resolution that is best for both of you. You both may want to talk about how you will handle the situation. You should discuss the possibility of hiring an attorney, and how you will pay for one. Additionally, if there will be heavy court fees, you should discuss how you will pay for those as well.
Supporting Your Partner
It is important to support your partner no matter what happens. However, support will mean different things in different situations. The best thing for your loved one might be to go to a rehab center at this time. If this is the case, you need to help your loved one get there. If they face jail time, try to find a way to make this easier for both of you. This will include discussing visitation, as it is generally very possible to see your partner while they are serving a sentence.
If you require two substantial incomes to support yourselves and your family, the court may grant your spouse a work permit so that their job will not be greatly affected by a suspended license. If this is not an option for your spouse, it is important to talk about how you, your friends, and your family can take turns driving your spouse around. Taking on too much at once may cause you to become angry and bitter towards your spouse which will only make matters worse.
Your spouse may be required by the court to attend a counseling course about their DUI. Many of these programs allow family members to be present. If your spouse would like you to attend, it is important to love and support them by attending. If your partner has a drinking problem, it is important that you help them find a resolution for the issue at hand.
Having your spouse receive a DUI can be a very strenuous situation for the both of you. If this has happened to you recently, you should contact a lawyer before proceeding with any legal matters. If you would like my assistance in handling this situation, contact me here.